Unplugged vs Plugged-In

Published 06/14/2018

Top Tips for Technology Etiquette at Weddings

10 to 20 years ago you didn't have to consider but nowadays, with the potential for your big entrance to have made it to Instagram before you've even made it to the end of the aisle, technology at your wedding is something that needs to be considered.

You can either love seeing all your wedding photos on Facebook minutes after you say “I do” or you could hate the idea of ‘candid’ shots making it online before you get to approve them.  All this happens way before your professional wedding photographer has a chance to even put up a sneak peek.  Wedding photographers can take weeks, or months to edit the images.

With wedding apps, specialized sharing sites, and hashtags, sharing your wedding photos have never been easier.

Some Statistics

According to Wedding Paper Divas, who conducted a recent survey on Digital Etiquette

  • 4 in 10 weddings encouraged the use of social media, with a hashtag provided.
  • 5 in 10 guests said they’d “checked in” to weddings while in attendance.
  • 33% of guests were requested not to use phones or cameras during the ceremony.


Sharing photos and stories of your wedding is lots of fun. Not only will you get great candid snaps of you and your other half, but you’ll get to catch up on all the wedding gossip you perhaps weren’t privy to on the big day.

Your great-aunt doing shots, how could you miss out on these?

Most professional photographers and videographers are awesome at their jobs, but accidents do happen. With the quality of the photographs from phones improving all the time, encouraging your guests to capture your day on their own devices will safeguard you with crowdsourced shots if you’re not happy with your professional pictures.

If some of your friends and family live far away or can’t make your wedding, this will allow them to see all the shared images lets them feel involved in your day from far.


If you want your wedding to be a private and intimate affair, perhaps keeping your guests in the moment, is more important to you than having your images on Instagram or Facebook.

Phones and cameras can be distracting and really take from the sense of occasion, particularly during the speeches or the ceremony.

If you’ve had a hard with who will be on your guest list, you don’t want to cause any friction with those not invited, when they find out on Facebook who did make the list.

While it’s nice to have everyone on Twitter tell you how gorgeous you are, do you really want an unflattering picture you, doing the rounds on the internet?


How to Share

Hashtags are the simplest way to share your wedding online, whether you go with a classic #mrandmrsjones or #sarahandtomgethitched to something a little more distinct to your day like #rowdyontherooftop. These can be used on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to collect images and videos from your day.  Just try to make it specific to you, make sure it was not already used by looking on tagboard.com

There is a ton of nifty apps out there for sharing your photos and videos such as Wedding Party App, Wedding Snap, and Wed Pics.   They offer a variety of features between them; these apps allow users to share their images privately with each other and the happy couple.

This is a great option for couples who’d rather keep the images within the party. Let your guests know with your invitation or with table cards what they need to do to get the app and sign in to your wedding.

How to Unplug Your Wedding

Really, with this one, all you have to do is ask nicely, and your guests should be happy to follow your tech-free policy.

Let them know whether you’d simply like them to stay offline for the day of your wedding, whether you’d just like no cameras at the ceremony.

Include a note in your invitations, or signs around your venue to let guests know your feelings.

Ask your photographer to take lots of candid guest shots on the day, or perhaps request a second shooter, so no one is left out of the pictures if they’re leaving their cameras at home.

Perhaps have a photo booth at your reception so you’ve still got lots of fun snaps of your guests at the party, without them being distracted with taking their own on the day.

Guest Etiquette

It’s safe to say that you should respect the couple’s wishes on the technology front.  And if you are sharing images or videos on the day, do remember some simple rules:

  • Only post flattering pictures of the bridal party, they've spent a lot of time, and money, to look their best on the day, so please respect that.
  • Adhere to cultural traditions as well as the couple’s own policy; don’t take photos during prayers or rituals. Likewise, avoid using your phone during dinner.

Think about how you want your wedding and plan accordingly.  For more on hashtags check out our previous blog post all about hashtags.