It is a whirlwind when you get engaged and now have to plan your wedding, something you probably have had some thoughts about but no clue where to start. Planning your wedding can be a daunting task since planning an event such as a wedding isn't something you do regularly. Here are a few tips of things I wish I knew when I planned my wedding (even if it was almost 5 years ago).
Trust Your Gut
Just like when you said yes to the proposal you need to trust your gut and instincts when your wedding planning. There are a lot of decisions to make and vendors you'll need to hire for your wedding day.
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Many of your vendors will spend a lot of time with you on your wedding day, especially your photographer. You must connect with them and feel comfortable with them so trust your gut.
Know your options!
Ever google ‘wedding venues Rhode Island’ or ‘RI Wedding DJ’ the search results will be overwhelming with the number of search results that will come up. While it is totally fine contacting a few different vendors, don’t get carried away. Tip: do your research first and contact your top 3 to get more information or schedule a consultation.
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You can’t compare “Apples to Oranges. All vendors are different, everyone has different levels of experience, different service offerings, and different packages.
While this might make your decision difficult since you try to compare, which is only natural but you're doing yourself a disservice! If a deal seems too good to be true, like a pair of those red-bottomed Christian Louboutins you have been dreaming of for only $299, it probably is too good to be true! Don’t get fooled, be sure to consider what each vendor is offering to you.
Read Your Contract
Especially with COVID 19 many vendors have their contract to protect their business and to protect you! Don’t just sign it! Make sure you are getting everything that you expect from the vendor, that all the details like the times of your wedding are correct. If you have any questions about anything on the contract please ask.
Just like in your relationship communication with your vendors is key to the success of your wedding. Remember to keep your vendors in the loop with the plans for your wedding day. We understand things can change such as timing, your guest count, etc. it is important for you to keep us informed. It is also important that you let your vendors know your vision and expectations at your wedding.
Do what you want and what reflects you as a couple! Don’t be afraid to go outside the “norm” for your details. Adding 'you' to your wedding personalizes the day and the experience. You want your guests saying, this is so them! For my wedding instead of an elaborate wedding cake we did an ice cream sundae bar. I still had a small cake for a cake cutting but the highlight was the sundae bar.
Music is the perfect place for you to personalize your day. The music should reflect you, at my wedding, there was a 10-minute mix of the Backstreet Boys which are my favorite that everyone loved, if I didn’t have any BSB played at my wedding, my friends and family would have thought they went to the wrong wedding!
Have a First Look
I know you want the special moment when you first see each other but you will have that on your first look and again walking down the aisle! You get to see each other before the ceremony so you can get some of the tears out, talk with each other and share a few moments just the two of you. You will also then be able to attend more of your wedding and not disappear and miss all the hors-d'oeuvres and drinks at cocktail hour.